anon asking about another tumblr user: I am not in touch but I wish I was. I also am concerned. They are in my thoughts.

General ps: I don’t have internet at home right now, that’s why I’m not participating. Be back when Comcast get’s their act together! ;)

The present counseling and treatment of transsexuals, based on the medical model I have described, give the transsexual no real moral options. Failing to analyze our society’s definitions of masculinity and femininity, such therapy offers little encouragement and advice to help the transsexual live beyond both these containers of personhood. Consider the possibility of counseling that encouraged the transsexual to break both stereotypes. Here, the transsexual would be encouraged to become the agent of her or his own energies and to strive for more varied modes of being and becoming. In a very real sense, at this point, the transsexual would become a social critic. All of us are in some way constricted by sex-role socialization. One way of viewing transsexuals is that they are uniquely constricted by the rigidified definitions of masculinity and femininity. The general cultural constrictions, from which we all suffer, become body-laden with them. However, deprived of an alternative framework in which to view the problem, the transsexual is unable to express the problem clearly. The gender identity clinics have a vested interest in suppressing criticism, and may collude with the transsexual to solve the problem in an ultimately uncritical way. Given a different mode of therapy where “consciousness-raising” is the primary modus operandi, the transsexual might not find it as necessary to resort to sex-conversion surgery.
Janice Raymond (via genderheretic)
(Reblogged from transgendertrender)
plansfornigel:

Like Laverne Cox this idiot thinks that SRS is every man’s right regardless of past history of character. No. People with a proven history of violence should not be allowed to legally change gender or name.
I am so pro castration on demand, it hurts, but I don’t think violent people should be granted trans status. What’s at the heart of the so-called “bathroom debates” is this; convicted rapists and murderers are allowed to legally change gender. It is reasonable to assume that any transwoman may be a man with violent past cause he could be, child molesters are allowed to change gender.
How does this policy benefit ANYONE other than men with violent histories? Spoiler: IT DOESN”T. Trans politics needs a coup and a regime change, cause their shining golden girl Laverne Cox along with Sylvia Rivera Law Project is promoting policy that is no different from what this jackass in the screen cap is saying.

I’m a trans woman and I DO NOT SUPPORT legal change of sex designation for trans women who rape and murder girls and women. Not now, not ever. If you are a trans women who doesn’t hate women, you shouldn’t support this either.
Zinnia, shame on you. Though you obviously have no shame, hence the Godwining yourself. Oh, and if you wonder why some radical feminist think you’re a man, it’s because I’ve never in my life met a woman who would say this kind of bullshit. 100% male “rationalist” idiocy.

plansfornigel:

Like Laverne Cox this idiot thinks that SRS is every man’s right regardless of past history of character. No. People with a proven history of violence should not be allowed to legally change gender or name.

I am so pro castration on demand, it hurts, but I don’t think violent people should be granted trans status. What’s at the heart of the so-called “bathroom debates” is this; convicted rapists and murderers are allowed to legally change gender. It is reasonable to assume that any transwoman may be a man with violent past cause he could be, child molesters are allowed to change gender.

How does this policy benefit ANYONE other than men with violent histories? Spoiler: IT DOESN”T. Trans politics needs a coup and a regime change, cause their shining golden girl Laverne Cox along with Sylvia Rivera Law Project is promoting policy that is no different from what this jackass in the screen cap is saying.

I’m a trans woman and I DO NOT SUPPORT legal change of sex designation for trans women who rape and murder girls and women. Not now, not ever. If you are a trans women who doesn’t hate women, you shouldn’t support this either.

Zinnia, shame on you. Though you obviously have no shame, hence the Godwining yourself. Oh, and if you wonder why some radical feminist think you’re a man, it’s because I’ve never in my life met a woman who would say this kind of bullshit. 100% male “rationalist” idiocy.

(Reblogged from plansfornigel)

catfem:

I also think that over the past few days, I have seen anger & criticism focused on Laverne Cox. I honestly think that, while anger at her participation in the project is absolutely justified, her support of Luis Morales is disgusting and awful, we are missing a bigger picture.

Our most virulent criticism should be on the Sylvia Rivera Law Project, which is an organization with funding & name recognition that has devoted its influence & resources to pursuing placing individuals such as Luis Morales into women’s prisons, which places female inmates at substantial risk of assault/traumatization. 

Luis Morales isn’t the first and won’t be the last violent male to find SRLP’s resources devoted to moving him to a women’s prison, so, if we care about the safety of incarcerated women in the long-term, we need to focus on SLRP, rather than Laverne Cox’s individual behavior. 

YES! Trans woman here to say: We need to hold Sylvia Rivera Law Project accountable. I DO NOT and WILL NEVER support putting trans women who raped and/or murdered girls or women into women’s prisons. Not in my name.

SRLP: you need a serious reality check. Please stop supporting male violence against women!

(Reblogged from nextyearsgirl)

Anonymous said: You shouldn't deny someones gender just because they've done terrible things. Thats working directly against trans equality because it denies that trans people are capable of what cis people are capable of.

appropriately-inappropriate:

Alright then. Let’s put it this way:

Luis Morales raped, mutilated, murdered and desecrated the corpse of a little thirteen year old girl. He then mocked her mother while on trial. He did that as a man. He was sentenced, tried and convicted, and has spent twenty+ years in jail.

How concrete does the evidence have to be for a man to get 20+ years for murdering a little black girl? Hell, people’ll shot them in cold blood and walked away, so for the courts to give a fuck, there must have been incontrovertible evidence.

So, now we have a man with a male body (because he certainly wasn’t dysphoric enough to not rape her with it), who after prison marrying some serial killer and wanting to play wifey, has requested a sex change and a transfer to a female prison.

I’ll bite.

We have a trans woman who brutally raped, mutilated, murdered and desecrated the body of a little girl, and then had the gall to toy with her mother. THAT’S a trans woman.

THAT is something trans women, those poor, oppressed trans women, are capable of. Killing, and raping, and desecrating little girls, just like every other male who did it.

If you want me to point out the obvious, that the trans community offers a warm and welcoming embrace to men who rape, assault and murder women, then that’s absolutely a-ok with me.

Is that equal enough for you?

(Reblogged from appropriately-inappropriate)
(Reblogged from evilfeminist)

Anonymous said: As a radfem and also a prison abolitionist, I wonder why all the trans women prisoners who get support from the likes of SRLP are rapists and wife murderers. Maybe they're good at manipulating the sympathies of social justice circles. Maybe liberals don't actually care about nonviolent TWOC who get incarcerated for turning tricks or selling drugs to support themselves. These nonviolent TWOC are extremely vulnerable to rape and abuse within the prison system, but no word from liberals on them.

appropriately-inappropriate:

Of course not. They’re common, I guess. Of maybe they’re just not narcissistic sociopaths. Once you hurt a person, a woman, what do you have to lose?

I’m all for reforming the prison system. I don’t even believe in most drug charges (personal use vs intent to traffic, I suppose, but how many times do we hear the statistic of brown and black people getting hit with trumped up drug related charges?)

I don’t care that they’re advocating for prisoners. EXCELLENT. good.

But could you maybe try to find some that aren’t in there for good reasons? This creep played wifey for a serial killer and got off on it, on TOP of the crimes that got him in jail in the first place. That’s not someone you want to advocate for. Not ever.

As far as I can tell, SRLP is run by ftm’s who hate women and think that people born male can do no wrong. It’s like the ultimate club of heterosexual females cheering on and apologizing for males. I find it deeply disturbing and I DO NOT support that organization at all.

(Reblogged from appropriately-inappropriate)

riseofthecommonwoodpile:

A thing that Green Day and Henry Rollins (and most white punk guys tbh) share is that they never emotionally matured past like age 18 because they were in an environment that rewarded their immature but passionate anger and negativity, so now you’ve got a whole generation of 40 year old white punks who are just embarrassments in everything they do

(Reblogged from nextyearsgirl)

Anonymous said: What can people who do transition (and don't intend to detransition) can do to support detransitioners?

redressalert:

Hey anon,

You’re really sweet; thank you for this thoughtful message.

I’m gonna assume you’re ftm and go from there. 

I’d say the biggest thing is to understand—as I do—that we’re not enemies; we’re actually not fundamentally different from each other. We’re the same group of people. It’s not the case that detransitioners just aren’t and were never really trans people. We were. It’s not the case that you can pick out certain characteristics of a person and use them to predict who will stay transitioned; you can’t.

We have the same “stuff,” we’re just handling it differently at this moment. I used to be where you are, and under the right set of pressures I could go back. (I hope that never happens, because it would take something pretty heinous at this point to push me there, but I say this in the recognition that we’re not really different.) Likewise, you could find yourself where I am in the future. I think that knowledge underlies the real uneasiness that is usually present between our “two” groups.

Because while we’re not enemies, it can be really awkward to interact with each other. We have a lot of the same “stuff,” so we can trip each other’s wires very easily. I get that. I’m willing to own my part of that awkwardness and welcome ftms to own theirs. I look at mine pretty carefully and keep current with it as best I can. For me, the most volatile part is when I get triggered by interacting with old ways of thinking/self-concept that I have had to work very hard to get out of. I imagine for ftms it is probably something like, feeling threatened that a lot of what detransitioners talk about specifically names the pressures that these coping mechanisms are built to contain—and that’s no joke, people don’t make such sophisticated containers unless we have stuff that really requires it. My “stuff” was downright nuclear and it needed a serious containment protocol—so I get it. It’s actually generally not a good idea to discard any coping mechanism if you don’t have something adequate to replace it with. I learned that in trauma recovery and in recovery recovery; it’s quite applicable here, too.

This blog isn’t about trying to get ftms to detransition. That’s not my goal. I only offer my detransitioning ESH (experience, strength, and hope—12 step term) to women who ask for it because they have decided they want to do this. To ftms, I say—cope however you need to cope with this fucked up world, and know that I will be in your corner pulling for you to survive—while at the same time trying to help build a world with better options for us all. Because I do think it’s untenable that ftm transition is being medicalized in wholly irresponsible and dangerous ways—that scares me, and I care about that a lot. It’s not okay that we have been treated as “not even lab rats” and endangered by those who claim to be helping.

It might be offensive to you, but in my world these are terms of respect and recognition: I understand you as part of a tradition of passing women and I will always see you as my sister. Whatever images those words (women, sister) may evoke in dominant culture, in my meaning they have plenty of room for you, exactly the way you are right now, however that looks. I’m not talking about “gender” when I use those words; I’m talking about what you and I have in common. Neither of us were the daughter that our parents wanted and expected us to be. We weren’t what the world had in mind when it put those words and roles on us. But here we are. Any “incongruity” isn’t real. We’re real.

If ftms and detransitioners could bridge across that feeling of mutual threat and be real with each other—unguarded, disarmed, and radically honest—I wonder what we’d be capable of.

I’m not sure I answered your question, but I hope I haven’t alienated you too much and I hope you get that I care about you, too.

You were brave and generous to ask this and I appreciate it a lot.

(Reblogged from redressalert)

Keep your identity diversified!

plansfornigel:

Keep your identity diversified!

August 17, 2014 by Joel Nowak

This is a reply to a recent comment from a thread about why it is important for some that their neo vagina be accepted by others as not being significantly different from a natal woman’s vagina. I am hoping to make more progress with my inbox tomorrow before starting school on monday. (I got a few out today.)

I have a few last thoughts and then I really need to take a break from talking about the “is a neo vagina the same as a natal vagina” business. In short what I want to say is that that if you have modified your genitals and they are now the way you want them, that is the important thing. People can say it is a mutilation but they can also say that an ear piercing is a mutilation if they want. In the end the only person who gets to judge if it is a mutilation or not is you. When it comes to your own body and how you want to relate to it – the only opinion that matters is your own.

But here’s the thing, if your goal is to convince everyone on the planet that a neo vagina is the same thing as a natal vagina that is a fools errand. Even if you are able to convince some people of the validity of your argument there is always going to be the next person you will then need to talk to and try to convince. That is just reality. So here is another significant way in which transwomen are DIFFERENT from natal women. (Not worse. Not better. Just different.) While you can’t overlook the fact that many natal women also have their own “femaleness” questioned on a regular basis – it is a very different kind of questioning than that faced by transwomen. For the natal woman, it is based on cultural expectations – and (with the exception of certain women born intersexed) it is not a “literal” questioning. For transwomen, it is very literal and often an expressed refutation of their “femaleness” coming from those who have a different criteria than the transwoman does for what they consider male or female. And as much as you or any trans person wishes that this wasn’t so, this is one thing that you can’t do anything about other than silence them (or live your life in a way that is less of a big deal for them and for you … I’ll get to that in a moment.)

I know that is hard to deal with. I spent hours and hours ruminating and trying to convince myself that the definition of gender that I was building my transition on was logical and true. For me, I couldn’t do it. That was the one piece that my entire transition depended on – my being able to convince myself that people’s sex can be truly “reassigned” (or corrected after being “assigned” the wrong one at birth – I am not talking about intersex conditions here.) When I realized that I couldn’t convince myself of this that was where the house of cards that my transition was built upon fell down and I knew I would have to rethink some pretty major things about how I was living my life. In my case it led me down the path of retransition – there were a lot of reasons why living as a male again were appealing to me. That was just my choice though. know that many other transwomen have gotten to this point as well but have learned to accept and even celebrate this reality.

Here is what I worry about. When your entire identity is built upon something that is still very speculative (i.e. the various theories about the nature of transgenderism) or cannot be sustained without forcing others to accept the validity of something that they do not believe to be true, then you are in a dangerous spot. We need our identities. It is good if they are flexible, but we need them to be solid. Having them knocked out from under us can be devastating. So that is why I worry when I see more and more people trying to make sure that nothing can challenge their gendered identity by enacting laws, or trying to silence others who they feel are a threat. That is just not going to be sustainable in the long run. It is not realistic. I think it is dangerous.

But here is the important thing that I think some trans people need to be mindful of. Your identity is much more than if your are “truly” male or “truly” female. There is so much else to it – literally everything else about ourselves that makes us who we are. And that is solid. It is always going to be there. But just like someone who believes their entire identity is built upon a certain career and then they get fired – the consequences of having that shaken can be devastating. I don’t want to see people get themselves into that position. I basically have been there and it is not a fun place to be. Some trans people (who knows, maybe even most) will never really face that – but again, with the large numbers of people who have transitioned recently – I am confident that quite a few will face some sort of identity vacuum after coming to their own conclusion that they have not really changed their sex. And for those who come to this very personal conclusion I think it is important that they are able to transition to a new way of how they wish to define themselves in terms of gender, whatever that may be. I am absolutely positive that if we can continue to create a climate where it easier for these people to find their way, real lives are going to be saved.

It starts with realizing that there can be new narratives for transwomen (and transmen) going forward living in their chosen gender. It includes people who decide to retransition talking about it. This is about creating more options and maybe trying to help people realize that a lot of the more militant trans-activism that is going on right now is actually creating an environment where it is harder for people to thrive and be safe.

Flexibility good.

Rigidity bad.

We need more options – not less.

Ok … now please Michele – can we take a break from the vagina stuff for just a bit?

(Reblogged from plansfornigel)